7 Day Challenge: Facing My Fears and Embracing Self Discipline

by Karen on July 29, 2009


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I don’t want to do this. Which is exactly why I need to do it. I have every excuse in the world, and every reason why later would be a better time. As I try to think of the perfect time to try out this self discipline challenge, I’ve realized that NOW is the perfect time.

For the past couple months, I have been considering keeping track of my life in detail, and make a huge, concerted effort at making changes. But, the problem is that I’m filled with excuses. I’m comfortable being stuck in my rut. It’s nice and warm and cozy down here. Which has made me realize that there is never going to be a perfect time to do anything. Life is constantly happening, with all of its issues, problems and distractions. If you want to make something happen, you can’t wait for life to present the perfect timing.

You have to make it happen.


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I’m not where I want to be in life. I want to change so much, do so much more, and achieve my dreams. I know I have the potential to do remarkable things, but potential is nothing if it’s never used. As I talked about in my last post that I think the basis of most of my problems is fear. Fear keeps you stuck. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of change. Fear of judgment. Fear of criticism. I’m tired of spinning my wheels in the quicksand of fear, so I’ve decided to be uncomfortable. It’s time to make myself more uncomfortable, and just see how I deal with it.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
— Neale Donald Walsch

Since I’m resisting doing this challenge, it’s probably the best reason why I need to take it on now. Not in a few days, not next week or next month, but NOW. Which is why I am starting tomorrow, July 30th. A huge part of me is actually positive and super excited about doing this, despite the fears. I want to be an early rising-fit-productive-energetic-creative individual. I am incredibly excited to take on this challenge, but my initial start date was July 1st. A month has come and gone due to procrastination, flying past me quicker than the excuses can enter my mind.

I struggle with ginormous perfectionist tendencies that have done more self destruction than ever benefited me. I want to do everything perfectly. I want to do things at just the right time, with just the desired result. I want it all to line up perfectly and everything to be clean cut and work just right. But, you know where that leads? Nowhere. Perfection is not reality. Life is never perfect. And although it is difficult for me to embrace this reality, it’s the truth.

I’ve wanted to try out a self discipline challenge based on this concept….

What if I did everything that I think I should be doing?

I should wake up earlier every day.

I should write more.

I should eat healthier.

I should exercise regularly.

I should take better care of myself.

I should organize this, or clean that.

The thing is, I’m an excellent dieter, until I get hungry. I’m awesome at planning a productive, active day, until the alarm goes off early. In other words, I suck at self discipline. So, how do you get more self discipline? Just do it. And do it, over and over and over and over. So, that’s my plan. I’m getting ready to make myself uncomfortable.

Why 7 days?

I’ve picked this time period because it seems do-able. Part of me wants to do a 21 day, or 30 day trail period, but I would like to start with a period of time in which I can be as successful as possible. My plan is to evaluate carefully how this week goes, and then plan for longer periods of time based on my upcoming successful next week.

So, here’s the plan. I have a checklist of what my ideal day would look like. I usually do some combination of these things every day, but not all of them at the same time. A few things are new, a bit of a stretch, and might be more of a challenge than others. I never wake up at 8am unless I have to work the odd morning shift here or there on the weekends. But, in my ideal world, I wake when the birds begin chirping. Other things on this list are activities that I have done for different periods of time in the past year that I have enjoyed the results. The difference is that starting tomorrow, I am doing them all at the same time. I could bore you with my reasoning behind each activity, or the root of why each thing is particularly challenging from past bad experiences. But, I’ll spare you.

The list of required daily activities includes:
* Waking up at 8am
* Writing Morning Pages (as described in The Artist’s Way)
* Writing down morning gratitude
* having breakfast within 1 hour of getting up
* Eating a healthy snack before lunch
* Taking daily vitamins
* Exercise at least 30 mins.
* Keep a food journal of everything I’ve eaten or drank
* Keep a money journal of income and itemized spending for the day
* Do 30 mins. of cleaning or organizing anything
* Read at least 15 mins. of something meaningful
* Drink at least 2 Liters of water
* Eat two fruits and three servings of veggies
* Floss daily
* Turn lights out by 11pm

This might be more detail and personal information than the average reader needs, but I am using this public platform to commit to myself and all three of my subscribers that I will do this even when it doesn’t feel good. I’ll be posting follow up posts, depending how often I’m inspired this week. :)

Bring on the discomfort, and wish me luck!

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Jon Griffith July 29, 2009 at 10:19 pm

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There’s one key phrase that you mentioned in your post that caught my attention because I had written an article about it on my site, which I can’t seem to locate, that spoke about the fear of success.

The fear of success grips me at least once every day and I have to fight it. Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose.

When we succeed, it means we have failed more times than we haven’t. It means that more eyes will be on us, and there will be more people expecting us to fail. The more success we experience, the more failures we leave in our wake…

…the encouraging part about it is that we leave them in our wake. They are behind us, and as a result, we will…WE WILL experience success. We must face failure in order to achieve success, so in essence, it’s absolutely counter-intuitive that we should fear failure.

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 2:27 pm

Hey Jon,

Thanks for stopping by! I would love to read the article you talk about… the fear of success is an interesting topic. I don’t know if it’s my issue of not, but the topic fascinates me. It is definitely and elusive one!

Thanks for your wise words of wisdom… :)

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Diggy - Upgradereality.com July 29, 2009 at 11:44 pm

Hey Karen;)
Nice to hear from you again, was wondering where you disappeared to :)

Good luck with your challenge, I also suck at self discipline, I found the only way to really change your habits effectively is to take actions that will force you to change your ways.

Want to wake up early? > Set 2 alarm clocks to go off at 6am

Want to eat healthy? > Make sure your house has only healthy foods in it, if you dont buy junk you can eat it.

Want to go to gym every day? > pay an expensive membership so that every day you dont go is wasting money

etc etc :)

Let us know how the 7 days went:)

Keep well miss!
Diggy
Upgradereality.com

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 2:22 pm

Hey Diggy! ( I always want to say “YO! to your name for some reason, it makes me all ghetto..ha.)

I’m still around! I like the way you think… very practical and logical for making your goals a reality! I’m trying a few different approaches to it all… I wish multiple alarms worked for me… but it doesn’t matter how many I have, as I can just turn them off!

I’ll have a follow up post on how it’s going next week… :)

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Bakari July 30, 2009 at 6:44 am

Good luck with your new program.

My discipline mostly stems from doing things I really enjoy. However, they must in the end provide me with some benefit.

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Positively Present July 30, 2009 at 7:16 am

Great post! I really like how you laid it out and elaborated on some of the key points. It’s really great. I can’t wait to hear how the 7 days go. Good luck! :)

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 2:26 pm

Thanks, Dani! I tried to make it elaborate, but not unattainable… Will have a follow- up post soon. :)

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Dayne | TheHappySelf.com July 30, 2009 at 10:07 am

I have no doubt that doing all those things will make a difference in you. The main things is that you don’t feel like you “should” do them, but you “want” to do them. That is the real difference.

I think doing 20 minutes of meditation a day will greatly help you as well. That is when you will really feel your anxiety, fears, etc. but look at it as purification. :)

Best of luck to you!

Dayne
TheHappySelf.com

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 2:23 pm

Hey Dayne,

Thanks for the support… I need it! :)

I really want to try out meditation. I have wanted to for years, but worry my mind will never shut up! I guess that’s the point of it, though! I will try it out soon. Thanks for the suggestion for the book, too. :)

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Chris July 31, 2009 at 10:43 pm

Hi, I found your blog through ‘plugin id’ comments. I really like your writing style, your positivity and enthusiasm, and your blog is becoming one of the first I look for on my RSS (yes i am one of your 3 subscribers!) :)

Hope the challenge is going well

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 2:24 pm

Hey Chris,

Awesome! So glad you found me over here. I’m flattered by your compliments… so glad you are enjoying what I write. I’ll try to keep the good stuff coming. And thanks for subscribing! :)

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Doug August 1, 2009 at 7:15 pm

Hi Karen,

You have an excellent writing voice. According to your activity list you plan to use it more often and you should. But be careful that you don’t should all over yourself. :)

Hope your plan is working out. I find that changing just one thing at a time is tough for me. If you trip just pick yourself up and keep going. You are an intelligent, attractive young woman who deserves all the things you are promising yourself. If you can’t give yourself everything today give what you can and try again tomorrow.

I’ve been reading a book this week, The Art of Possibility by Rosamund and Benjamin Zander. They propose that life is a story (we make everything up) and that changing ourselves is simply a matter of changing the story. I’ve been starting each day with the simple premise that I’m playing a new game. If I’m making it all up I might as well make up good stuff. I recommend the book if you are looking for some good reading.

Best regards,
Doug

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Karen August 1, 2009 at 11:16 pm

Hi Doug,

I love it! “Don’t should all over yourself.” I think it’s too late! I’m learning very quickly from this about what I’ve done wrong going into it… which I guess was the point… to learn!

Thank you for all the kind compliments. I really appreciate it. I am learning that perseverance may be the key to this whole thing… not perfection, just stamina to keep trying, no matter what.

That book sounds great- I’ll check it out.
:)
Karen

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Josh August 2, 2009 at 2:10 pm

Another good post. Keep strong.

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Kaizan August 3, 2009 at 4:01 am

Hi Karen,

great blog post!
I agree with you so much, its the things we dont want to do, that we should do!

I like your list of activities. Will be interested to see how it goes.

Good luck with your challenge!

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mmmber August 4, 2009 at 12:54 pm

self-discipline is my biggest hang up in life and your words certainly ring in my head. great planners, horrible doers. are you a libra by chance? haha remember not to get caught up in the perfect yet strive to do more than you *want* to. 1 more day… can’t wait to get the re-cap!

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Ro September 15, 2009 at 11:05 am

Karen… Reading your post was almost like hearing myself talk!

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Yeah, I love that and I’ve put it as the wallpaper on my iPhone. I’ve recently started something similar (though only to get myself in shape… I’ll fight the other dragons after slaying this one).

Thanks for this post… Can’t tell you how much I needed to read it.

Ro

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